In all of the hard work and frustration of your job hunting,
HERE you have free lessons and exercises to customize to YOUR needs.
HERE you have free lessons and exercises to customize to YOUR needs.
Enjoy this part of the copyrighted "Job Hunting Tool Kit I-IV", pass it along to friends but do not sell it, please.
Also, enjoy a really funny video for lesson 3Q, right HERE...
3I.
The Unasked Test - Eye rolling
3J.
Dealing With Your Ugly fish
3K.
Lord Churchill - - You Are Drunk!
3L.
Never teach a pig to sing
3M.
IPS – How to Eat A Cow
3N.
Informational interviews
3O.
Failure is not a person/ I never lost, only behind
3P.
Building Your Spirit/ Making Yourself More Interesting
3Q.
The Big Battle lines: Frosting versus Cake
Love that eye rolling
This
is my favorite because the unprepared fall for it
every
time.
You
are the employer for a moment... you have a job that requires a go-getter attitude and ability to do things and
change plans on short notice. You want
to avoid anyone who would utter the words “I'm
not going to do THAT”. What to do?
Use an eye roller! Most of the time the eye-roller is a job
related test sprung on the applicant at the right moment.
So
you have completed the interview and the applicant has begun to relax. Their guard,
up for most of the meeting, is relaxed now and
you may see the real person behind the well-rehearsed
mask some wear at an interview. NOW!!
HIT THEM WITH THE EYEROLLER!
Give
them a job related test, simple math for cashiers, a written test with
vocabulary the right candidate should know. THEN I LOOK AT THEIR EYES AND
EXPRESSION!
Did
you see them roll their eyes and sigh a ‘oh, not a
test!' sigh? Well, they just told you how they deal with the unexpected. And they just lost a lot of their chance at
landing this job today. Why hire the eye-roller
when another candidate may enthusiastically grab the exam, welcoming the test
as a way to show their skills?
Back
to you being the job hunter... when an employer springs an eye-roller, like a
test or a ”come with me on a tour” or “I'll bring in another worker for a
moment”, welcome it and avoid
the eye roller expression
that can ruin a good interview in one second.
Making It Work:
What
are some unexpected things that can be thrown at you in an interview? Make a list of some off the wall questions
(like 'name six people living or dead you would invite to dinner tonight?’ what
animal most resembles you?) or job related questions (what would you do in
unusual situations at work) tests that can be dropped in front of an applicant.
Ask a friend to give you an interview,
have them select a few from your list or come up with their own and remember
yourtheir thoughts to your reactions.
Remember, the eyes have it, eh?
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Taking a long look at your Smelly Fish
Everybody's got a smelly fish. The better you know it, the
better you will be at getting him from ruining your life.
First, a story. A single mother was hoping to one day buy a house,
but money was always a problem and her dream seemed far away. One day she went to visit a home for sale and
was soon chatting with the owner about the financial troubles that she and her
children faced.
The
owner, wiping tears away, asked her how much money she had with her today. She shrugged and pulled out the $4.00 she had
in her pocket. “SOLD!”
he said.
The
woman found he was not kidding and she accepted the house on the owner's one
condition, that he would still own a hook on the kitchen coat rack. He was sentimental about it, and the whole
house for $4.00? What
could go wrong?
She
was settling in when the former owner stopped in one evening. “Sorry to
interrupt dinner, but I want to take a picture of the hook. Can you take a picture of me and the hook,
please?” OK, no harm done - the house
was a steal...
Weeks
later, she was preparing a small party in her place when the old owner stopped
by carrying a 40 pound fish.
“Yup, just caught it” he said as the fish dripped on
the kitchen floor. “Just going to hang it up here on MY hook.”
She
allowed it, took a picture of the man and his fish and was surprised when the
man left the house leaving behind the fish.
The former owner just smiled and said “I'm
leaving it on the hook. Don't you touch
it now because, hey, a deal is a deal...?”
Days
passed - the fish remained there, stinking up the whole house. She was reduced to staring at it and saying “a deal IS a deal.”
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Folks,
every deal you make and every compromise made carries the prospect that you will be left with
a smelly fish. Is it the words you have
to say to close a deal on a product you aren't sold on yourself? Is it the late hours or shift work that keeps
you away from family?
A
different kind of smelly fish pollutes your own
self-image. What keeps you from
your dreams? Down-cast friends? Fear of the unknown? A condition (physical or mental) you feel
that keeps you from advancing? Best to
take a good, long look at the fish you have on your hook in the compromises YOU
are setting.
FREE
HELP:
Employers
can receive a large tax credit for hiring people who are members of certain
“target groups”, (ex. veterans, disabled, single parents and others. Go to www.irs.gov and see if you are one of the Worker Opportunity
Tax Credit (WOTC) targeted groups.
Once
you know you qualify, make that solid first impression and when the time is
right, tell them that the employer may get a fat tax credit for hiring and
keeping you as opposed to other candidates.
Making It Work:
Draw
a picture of the
house you want to live in and in the middle of the picture draw your
personal smelly fish...maybe it is a whale, or
one with thorns and spikes; maybe it is really a lot of little fishes. Name the fish by the thing(s) that holds you
back the most. Keep this very personal drawing aside and
understand the impact that fish has on your life.
In
your own time and your own way, figure how to lose the fish somehow and get it
out of YOUR house...
My fish:
Lord Churchill, you are drunk
Lord
Winston Churchill had a quick wit that helped him dozens of times. He had one famous encounter that helps with
your job hunting.
One
night he was at a dinner filled with the richest, snootiest people London had
to offer. One woman was shocked (shocked
I say) to see Lord Churchill having had too much to drink.
She
shouted at him “Lord Churchill, you sir
are drunk!” Winston turned to her
and said softly but directly: “Madame, tonight I am drunk and you are
ugly. Tomorrow, I will be sober but you, sadly, will still be ugly.”
The
lesson here is that time and effort, painful as they may be at the time, can
cure some temporary problems – but ugly stays.
Churchill would become clear and sober again, but her ‘problem’ would
remain. How about you?
Making
It Work:
List
the aspects of yourself that are ‘rust’ in that they are part of who you are
and cannot be painted over or hidden. Be
true to yourself –
•
Are you a slob?
•
Do you have
trouble taking orders or correction?
•
Do you get into
arguments too quickly?
Make
another list this time of the lessons you need in order to address the problems
you face. What are the things that time
and effort can get it done for you.
Now
get to work solving it.
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Never teach a pig to sing,
it wastes your time and annoys the pig
Somethings
in life are just what they are. It will
snow in my hometown every winter, dandelions growing in my yard next year and
that the sun will come out tomorrow.
The
important part of this is the lesson comes from this quote. I have faith and hope that with your tenacity
and good sense you will land a job that brings you closer to your dreams. But, folks, there are somethings that you
cannot change.
It
is to save you time and energy (and sanity) I remind you that pig voice lessons
are a lousy investment because outside of Hollywood and Charlotte’s Web, pigs have
a terrible time carrying a tune.
Making
It Work:
Time to bring out tthat
beautiful Serenity Prayer:
“Grant me the
courage to change the things I can,
Patience to
accept the things I cannot and the
Wisdom to know
the difference.”
You
already have courage and wisdom (you are reading the JHTK series, right) Make
yourself a long list of what frustrates you about job hunt. Please
make it a long list.
Now
break it down into what you can change and what things you cannot. Now review the list a second time and
consider what you can’t change list again.
With time, help, education, perseverance are there some things in your
cannot list that can be changed. I could
buy something to get rid of the dandelions or get in snow shoveling shape to
prepare for the snow, making it less a problem. Like Little Orphan Annie sang “maybe what’s good gets a
little bit better and maybe what’s bad gets gone.”
Now
take your list of really can-nots, a pen and a roll of toilet paper. One by one, write down the items on your
can’t list onto the toilet paper. Once
the list is complete, one by one tear them off, sink them into the toilet water
and flush them away.
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How to Eat A Cow
So
many things are happening to you all at the same time that it is easy to lose
track and feel overwhelmed by it all.
The best way I know how to deal with this problem is to learn from what
my late grandfather said –
“The best way to
eat a cow is one steak at a time.”
Hey
, folks, you are facing ‘a cow’ in being unemployed or underemployed. You will remember years from now how you
handled the pressures you are facing right now.
Well, with apologies to our vegetarian friends, you have to bring that
cow down to size.
One
way is to label each of the steps separately, as is done in the Individualized
Placement and Support model of job hunting.
By breaking it down into its components,
you may be able to have a greater sense of mastery and a better sense of how
you will accomplish something toward your overall goals every day.
Making
It Work:
List
all of the parts of the job hunting process from your point of view:
•
Preparing
physically: Appearance, transportation, clothes, etc. so you present yourself
as energetic.
•
Preparing your
message: Resumes, applications, Oz factors of you and the specific employer.
•
Preparing your
research: What are perspectives of each employer, issues facing the hiring
managers for today/future, have you kept up with references?
•
Preparing for
the fine points: Ready for the unexpected, preparing for questions you may
face?
•
Add here any
other preparations unique to your personal situation.
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Informational Interviews
So
you have tried your best to get interviewed but cannot
get past the Bulldog.
Maybe
you want to show your capabilities but cannot get through to the employers out
there.
Or
maybe you are trying to get a better understanding of the interests, points of
view and Employer Oz factor, but you cannot find out.
One
solution to all 3 of these is the
informational interview. One of
the best ways to find out an employer’s needs and point of view is to ask one.
A great way to express to an employer your skills is to, well, tell one.
Getting
that information and exposure can come through an informational interview. This takes some self-confidence to set one up
but as with potato chips, once you have finished one you cannot wait for
another.
Making
It Work:
Practice
setting up an informational interview with three companies in the field you
want to go to work in. You may not get
all three, but keep at it until you meet at least one.
You
will need the following:
•
Who, Where and When –
Find the hiring manager at companies in the field you want to work in.
•
How
– Compose a letter asking to meet briefly with the person you have identified
at their convenience whether or not
they are hiring currently.
•
Why
– Well, what is YOUR reason? What is
YOUR interest in the field – why THIS company or THIS field?
•
What
– Plan ahead, knowing specific things you want to learn about – especially in
the point of view of the hiring manager: how do you select the right
person? What directions do you see for
the future?
The
goal overall is to understand more about the field, understand the Oz factor of
the employers you are hunting and when that is accomplished to get the word out
about your skills.
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Spirit 2
It
is important to keep your spirit up as you face the challenges of job
hunting. Earlier in the series we
reviewed some actions you can take to feel more centered or to make your
application more interesting, but in the fine tuning we are more personal.
Remember
to feel a sense of gratitude in the gifts that you have – the gifts of the
world around you and the gifts that you have to share with others. It can make a lasting effect on you to make
an inventory of what you need to support your personal spirit.
Helping others toward their goals – whether it is helping someone with homework or
joining a job hunting support group – can feed your spirit in a unique way.
Making
It Work:
Let
us address all three-
•
Gaining a
feeling of gratitude for the gifts you have requires that you make an inventory
of these gifts. Take a moment and list
gifts that you share with others - - the sunshine, 24 hours in a day and hope
for the future for example.
Include
the gifts that you have in the main realms of life – your physical body, your
intellect, your heart and ability to deal with others, resources to help
yourself financially and your spiritual gifts of faith in yourself, others or
tomorrow.
•
Make an
inventory of what you need for supporting your spirit. This is often difficult at first and requires
you to consider what faith means to you and how to foster it for the
future. Faith in the future, faith in
your being able to meet the challenges ahead.
•
Help others
toward their goals – give them the benefit of your experience, expertise and
caring. This helps open things in your
life that only come out in caring for others.
At the end of the day you will gain a sense that someone else’s life is
different because you were in it and know that this day was special to you as
well.
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Frosting and cake
My
late grandfather used to enjoy warning me about seeing past the sweet words of
salesmen or others who he called “all frosting and
no cake”.
In
job hunting there is a tendency among some hunters to sell all of the sizzle
without having any steak to back it up.
Employers are often concerned that they may be fooled by an applicant
who is just all sweet words (frosting) without a foundation to back it up (no
cake). The trick to it is to make
certain that when faced with this the employer knows that she is getting cake
after all.
How to do that?
First, make sure that in your resume, application and JIST
cards that you are showing the cake. Detail specifics of what you can do – have
proof with statistics, references who will back up the sweet sounding
statements you make.
Second, the cake should be inviting
to your audience – review the
words about your accomplishments as related to THEIR interests (noted in the
job description and all that you have found
in research.) If the employers want
angel food, avoid giving devil’s food.
Third, too much frosting makes the employer wonder how deep
the frosting goes compared to where the cake begins. Avoid
too much sweetness by keeping sentences short, resume easy to read and
filled with at least some cake.
Making
It Work:
Review
your resume, application and JIST card in light of the cautions listed above
and make the changes as needed. JIST
cards? Bulleted points of your best
qualities and qualifications targeting what the employer is looking for.
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